We're thinking about adopting an older child...?

well either way you think of it your daughter as your first but your adopted one will also probably be better if you waited so that way when you adopt him and then have a baby he'll probably feel like you don't love him. i was the first born in my family and they adopted my older sister nikki and they gave her a lot of attention to make her feel at home and i was only 6 and i didn't think my parents loved me so it would help if you think of the future a little bit no matter what you choose.